"Owe nothing to anyone- except for your obligation to love one another. If you love your neighbor, you will fulfill the requirements of God's law. For the commandments say, you must not commit adultery. You must not murder. You must not steal. You must not covet. These-and other such commandments-are summed up in this one commandment: Love your neighbor as yourself." Romans 13: 8-9
Love. What is love? Love is a word that I use and hear other people use many times in a day. People use love to describe things that they enjoy. "I love this book!" "I love that movie!" "I love hiking!" People say "I love you" to one another. But, what does love really mean? The Bible tells us that love is from God. 1 John 4:8 says "Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love." Genesis 1:27 says that we were created in God's image. Because of this, God has given us the capacity to love.
The Bible describes two different types of love. These two different terms are used in the original Greek translation of the Bible to show the difference between God's love and our conditional human love.
Agape Love
- God's love for us
- asks nothing in return
- self-sacrificial
- keeps giving
- has no conditions
- requires God in our lives
"This is real love-Not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his son as a sacrifice to take away our sins." 1 John 4:10
"But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us." Romans 5:8
Phileo Love
- brotherly love
- based on conditions
- based on feelings
In Matthew 22:37 Jesus says that the two greatest commandments are to "love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your mind, and to love your neighbor as yourself."
I believe love is shown through action and not just said in words. "My dear children, let us not love in word or tongue, but in action and in truth (1 John 3:18)." I can say I love someone 1,000 times but until I show the person by the things I do, I have no love. The amazing thing about God's love (agape) is that it has no conditions. God made the ultimate sacrifice for our lives while we were still sinners. If God's love were merely words it would mean far less.
There are certain people that I have a difficult time loving. It is hard for me to love people who don't give the same in return. It is hard to love people I find annoying. It is hard to love judgmental, selfish, arrogant, people. However, the Bible does not call us to love the easy-to-love people. The Bible calls us to love all people. "
But I tell you: Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you (Matthew 5:44)." We are even called to love those who hate us. This seems an impossible task. How am I to love the people I don't get along with? God is my only answer. God equals love. If God equals love, He is what I need to even be able to begin loving others.
1 Corinthians 13:1-13 is a great passage on love. It is a description of agape love.
"If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing. Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears. When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me. Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known. And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love."
Agape Love is: patient, kind, unselfish, truthful, hopeful, protects
Agape Love is not: jealous, rude, boastful, arrogant, selfish, angry
Lord, help me to love with an agape love.